The 3 Types of Life Partner Alignment

Who you choose as a life partner is one of the most important decisions that you can make.

And if you follow the principle of “you are who you surround yourself with,” then you’d accept that your partner has the highest impact on who you become.

Before entering into my current relationship, I spent multiple years thinking through what I want out of a partner. And one of the most critical aspects is “alignment.”

In simple terms, this means do they positively, neutrally, or negatively align with and impact my ability to achieve my life goals?

I’m an entrepreneur whose broad mission is to positively impact the lives of hundreds of millions of people. And because I’m mission-focused, finding a partner who’s a force multiplier is important.

A positively aligned partner would be someone who’s also a mission-driven entrepreneur, has an extreme growth mindset, and has an extraordinary work ethic.

A neutrally aligned person would meet one or none of these criteria. And they wouldn’t significantly positively or negatively impact my ability to achieve my goals.

And a negatively aligned person would hurt my chances of achieving my life goals. This might manifest itself by being in a relationship with someone who gets upset when I’m working hard.

Plenty of exceptionally successful people have neutral partners. But there are significant benefits to having a partnership where you help each other achieve your aligned life goals.

If you’re also a success-oriented person, I’m curious how you’ve thought about alignment in your relationship. Feel free to DM me if you don’t want to comment publicly!

Cam Woodsum
I've been building digital businesses, wandering the world, and writing about optimizing life for freedom since early 2017. My mission is to lower the barrier for people who want to live with more freedom: whether that be as an entrepreneur, a digital nomad, an early retiree, or just as someone who wants to live a happiness-driven life.